exactly! i also think that it depends on the specific person. this person in particular is pretty laid-back and open to all kinds of activities (of the non-carnal kind, to my current knowledge. ;) ) and so it's less daunting to pick things. but yes, no rules, just... whatever works right.

This is worth writing/collaborating about. :-)
i've only ever dated two people, but i am willing to offer my meagre services, certainly, for the greater cause!

also, permission to quote part of the entry to a friend?