I've done the "OMG But I can chaaaaaannnggeee hheeeerrrrrr" more than enough. It could be argues that I'm still doing it.
I was trying to go through all the excuses I've ever made for bad women in my life.
I agree with you that nice men sometimes come across as lacking self confidence, and I would hazard a guess that many nice men do lack this self confidence. I certainly have confidence problems that stem back to rejection in adolescence. Of course, this is no excuse, and being nice doesn't compensate for lacking confidence. Confidence is so sexy. For me, it can compensate for almost anything (sometimes even too much). I suspect this lack of confidence is the invisible barrier around nice men that I refer to, like a shroud that masks their attractiveness. I think many of these men do become more confident in a relationship, but that's just like me wanting a women to be more hot/smart/funny once she's in a relationship.
Re: Girls are Stupid / Boys are Stupid
I was trying to go through all the excuses I've ever made for bad women in my life.
I agree with you that nice men sometimes come across as lacking self confidence, and I would hazard a guess that many nice men do lack this self confidence. I certainly have confidence problems that stem back to rejection in adolescence. Of course, this is no excuse, and being nice doesn't compensate for lacking confidence. Confidence is so sexy. For me, it can compensate for almost anything (sometimes even too much). I suspect this lack of confidence is the invisible barrier around nice men that I refer to, like a shroud that masks their attractiveness. I think many of these men do become more confident in a relationship, but that's just like me wanting a women to be more hot/smart/funny once she's in a relationship.