I'd like to see a book that talked to both genders at once. (And assumed that people of both genders were sane, intelligent, reasonable people who were both willing and able to take equal roles in the dating process.)
I think the advice does kind of have to be gender-specific, because the genders still do have a lot of gender-specific baggage and assumptions that have been imposed on them and whatnot and do tend to think of the other gender as Mysterious. (I assume those who date their own gender don't have so much of that latter problem. :) )
Note that I know basically nothing about dating, in the going-on-dates-with-someone-you-don't-know-well sense, because I have done this precisely once, in high school (with a boy I met taking the achievement tests). :) But it's an interesting topic for lots of reasons.
(I'm mostly reading this thread going "wow, not only are there really people like that out there, but people I know have actually met them..." Somewhat sheltered, me.)
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Date: 2007-02-28 06:17 pm (UTC)I think the advice does kind of have to be gender-specific, because the genders still do have a lot of gender-specific baggage and assumptions that have been imposed on them and whatnot and do tend to think of the other gender as Mysterious. (I assume those who date their own gender don't have so much of that latter problem. :) )
Note that I know basically nothing about dating, in the going-on-dates-with-someone-you-don't-know-well sense, because I have done this precisely once, in high school (with a boy I met taking the achievement tests). :) But it's an interesting topic for lots of reasons.
(I'm mostly reading this thread going "wow, not only are there really people like that out there, but people I know have actually met them..." Somewhat sheltered, me.)