Geek Shiny

[plumtreeblossom]

When, when, when am I finally going to open a conversation with the very cute guy at work? I know, you've heard me mention attractive men here before, but in a corporation this big, the law of percentages just promises a certain amount of eye candy. However, this one always says hi to me and gives a distinctive nod. He's been doing so for months, and I always give him a warm smile and a breathy "hi" and lower my eyes demurely, because I'm terrified.

By "cute" I mean utterly gorgeous, to my quirky taste. Long wavy chestnut brown hair to mid-back (gasp), neatly trimmed beard, a few earrings, 35-ish, 5'10"-ish. In a word, yum. He has "hot IT guy" written all over him, though I don't actually know what department he works in. I'll bet he's a gamer. He looks like someone who would hang out with my crowd(s) outside of work. (seaweedgirle, you might have seen him, or even know him.)

This "hi" thing happens once or twice a week. Sometimes we've been in the elevator at the same time, and I listen while he talks about geek stuff with his colleagues. I haven't noticed a pattern to where he'll be and when, 'relse I'd place myself there. I have noticed, though, that when he has a cigarette, he has it in front of the building, which we're discouraged from doing. A rebel. *flutter!*

Last week in the Park Street T station I was walking past and hadn't noticed him there talking to another guy with an HM badge. He gave me a big sunny "Hi!" and that uptilt nod that says "You're cool, come join us." I could have stopped and joined their conversation. Could have, should have, but instead a very mellow "hi-eee" came out of my mouth that I didn't understand, while my feet just kept walking of their own accord. Seconds later I was kicking myself, because it would have looked stupid to double back.

Next time he says hi...neeeeext time, I swear I will start up a conversation. I will, dammit. No matter if it's only "How do you like this rain," or "Yay, we get Monday off," I will, so help me. Who is he?

Fun little puzzles like this put a sprinkle of sugar on having to go to work. :-)

Comments

[trowa-barton.livejournal.com]

Good luck with that :)

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

Hehe, I'm just curious. People that attractive are never available, but he's being nice to me, so hey. :-)

[quilla.livejournal.com]

hey now. i'm that attractive, and i'm available.

YOU'RE that attractive, and you're available.

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

So...wanna go out sometime, baby? ;-)

[trowa-barton.livejournal.com]

Wow. It's that easy.

[quilla.livejournal.com]

i didn't say i was available to the likes of you... i'm afraid your hair will show up my hair.

[bismuthobsidian.livejournal.com]

Work crushes are awesome! I remember days when that crush at work would run into me in the break room. It would just make my whole day. How exciting that you ran into him at the T.

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

Crushes in general are a delightful thing, even when I have no intention of ever pursuing or even telling the person about the crush. They give whatever I'm doing (work, show, activity, etc.) an extra sparkle, a reason to look and feel my prettiest, and they provide frequent breezes of very shiny energy, so long as it's kept it healthy and simple.

I had a lovely workplace crush last fall, and I couldn't wait to come to work everyday. It had a high comedic ending, though. For some reason, my gaydar wasn't working, and he never mentioned that he played for the other team. (I've nevre met a straighter-seeming gay man.) Immediately following his move to NYC, where I had full plans of hooking him and moving there myself, another coworker, who is a lesbian, sensed my error and said "Sweetie... don't you know?" *head in sand*

But he and I are still great pals, and some day I'll tell him about the mistaken crush. Now, let's see what surprises I might find with this new one. :-)

[quilla.livejournal.com]

i had the hugest crush of my LIFE on the son of a friend of my mum's. had NO idea he was gay. i didn't have a reason to have gaydar back then, having never met any gay men back home in B'desh. last summer i produced his Master's thesis film project and we became really good friends in a short time, and during one ride home, i told him. he laughed and laughed for a good five minutes before saying "if that's your taste, no wonder you're single". :oP

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

Oh noo!!!! :-)

But then, that's the least painful way to be given the bad news. So much easier than if they're straight but not attracted. Then you can just laugh about it and there are no crushed feelings or rejection.

We could have a whole huge club of local Davis women who had crushes on a certain gorgeous Deacon of First Church, whom we always saw gardening in the church yard with his flowing then-long hair and were sure he was straight.:-D

[quilla.livejournal.com]

then-long hair

the tresses are no more??

[vanguardcdk.livejournal.com]

If you haven't actually asked him you could always hold out the hope that he's bi... ;)

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

Naw, that was the first thing I asked my coworker-in-the-know. And he and I have already moved on to the "howya doing with the New York boys" stage. It would be downright weird, now. :-)

[eclecticavatar.livejournal.com]

I never end up with work crushes, but I have club crushes something fierce.

There's this guy that I've been lusting after since October of '04 (maybe longer) and I still have yet to say mroe than two words to him. *d'oh!*

I'm either afraid of shattering the illusion or I'm afraid he'll turn out to be a jerk. Either way, the fantasy is more fun than the reality probably is!

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

Yep, shattering the illusion is a big reason why I often choose not to spoil a good crush by revealing it. I also don't tell them if I know perfectly well that I'm not their type. Likewise if the crush person is definitely not available -- there's no reason to embarass him/her with information they don't want and can't use. Any of those kind of "not-gonna-happen" crushes should be treated like the TMI they are, and enjoyed as private attraction.

Years after the crush, though, it can be fun. Once a woman told me on LJ that she'd been smoopily attracted to me a while back, and it made me feel all warm and fuzzy. :-)

[chanaleh.livejournal.com]

PIX PLS K THX BYE

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

NO PHONE-CAM, DUDE
HES KEWT OKAY

[quilla.livejournal.com]

by FAR the funniest exchange i've read all day. mostly because i'm sitting here trying to picture you two actually saying it.

[seaweedgirle.livejournal.com]

His profile is not ringing any bells, but I'll definitely keep my out for him ... for investigatory purpose only, of course!

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

Thanks. :-) He's pretty much the only one I've seen around here who looks like that. (If there were more, I'd go hopelessly boycrazy!)

[quilla.livejournal.com]

man, i'm in the same situation with my gym crush. i have NO idea if he's gay or not. i'm convinced he is because he hasn't looked thrice my way. :oP he's just my type though! and i didn't know i had a type until i saw him. how does one strike up a conversation at the gym anyway? i feel like our first conversation should include me asking him "so do you date women?" just to get that out of the way. and drop hints, dontchaknow. but srsly, what would i say? "ooh those weights look heavy" or "whoo-ee it's hot in here" or "do you come here often?" argh argh.