Reduce emphasis on gifting Reduce emphasis on obligatory holiday travel
You ARE Queen of the World, honey. You are Queen of YOUR world. I can understand your wanting to honour your mom while she's around, and that's a decision you make. You can also decide not to. Obviously, there would be repercussions and it's up to you to figure out which scenario you prefer. In other words, suck it up, honey. (FWIW, I've lived in a guilt-inducing manipulating family too and know your pain.)
For awhile, my mom and sister and I were doing 'wishlists' whereby we would give each other lists of gift ideas. We knew that we were getting something that the recipient wanted, since it was on the list. But since there were many items on a list, there was an element of surprise in that we didn't know which item(s) we'd be getting. It worked well for awhile. Now we don't do gifts at all and it's so much better.
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Date: 2007-12-18 11:21 pm (UTC)Reduce emphasis on obligatory holiday travel
You ARE Queen of the World, honey. You are Queen of YOUR world. I can understand your wanting to honour your mom while she's around, and that's a decision you make. You can also decide not to. Obviously, there would be repercussions and it's up to you to figure out which scenario you prefer. In other words, suck it up, honey. (FWIW, I've lived in a guilt-inducing manipulating family too and know your pain.)
For awhile, my mom and sister and I were doing 'wishlists' whereby we would give each other lists of gift ideas. We knew that we were getting something that the recipient wanted, since it was on the list. But since there were many items on a list, there was an element of surprise in that we didn't know which item(s) we'd be getting. It worked well for awhile. Now we don't do gifts at all and it's so much better.