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Oh, Why Not?
Jun. 22nd, 2004 01:34 pmI've never done these pass-around memes before, but these two were more interesting than most.
MEME #1 (appropriated from![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
fosphorescent's LJ)
Which relationships in your life have involved conflict?
Every meaningful relationship of mine that has gone beyond the superficial/surface level has contained some measure of conflict, whether miniscule or titanic, even if it went entirely unspoken or unexpressed.
What have been your most powerful romantic experiences?
This is too sensitive to answer in full because it follows a 20-year pattern of deepest love followed by soul-searing pain. Each experience involved sharing a transcendent connection of mind/body/spirit/essence that heralded an eventual crushing end -- the unexplained and abrupt abandonment, the horrific revelation, the worst-case-scenario coming to life, the unexpected shock of terrible discovery. If I chose to write about it, I would be the Edgar Allan Poe of romance. I consciously choose not to write about it. And seldom talk about it.
What's the best way for someone to attract and impress you?
That's more comfortable to answer. Be good at whatever it is you do as your passion. Live to experience rather than to accumulate. Value creation over consumption. Have an eternally young soul that reflects itself in your body and lifestyle. Chase your curiosities further than your own back yard. Like me for who I really am.
Does it bother you when your S.O. checks out other people?
I don't have an SO. When in a relationship, though, this tends not to bother me. I check out both men and women all the time, and I see no harm in appreciating the physical beauty of a person you happen to see in passing. The only time it hurts is when I don't feel equally appreciated, or when the person being checked out is gushed over ad nauseam or repeatedly brought up.
After one date, if someone isn’t into you, how should they cut it off?
I don't think anyone is obligated to a "break things off" ritual after only one date.
Is it OK to break up with someone via e-mail?
If this happens to be the most effective mode of communication for you, I don't see e-mail break-up as unethical. It's been done to me, and I have to say it was preferable to the uncomfortable and stiff struggle for words during "we need to talk" talks. I also prefer it to being told in bed.
If someone cheated on you, what would you do?
You mean what did I do? I was stupid -- I acted on damaged self-esteem and accepted it silently, swept it under the rug, tried to convince myself it would never happen again. The only thing I know will never happen again is my self-defeating response to it.
There were about 10 more of these questions. But Hell's Bells, enough of that.
MEME #2 (appropriate and slightly altered fromlillibet's LJ)
I want you to ask me something you would like to know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Then post this in your own journal/blog (if applicable) and find out what people don't know about you.
MEME #1 (appropriated from
fosphorescent's LJ) Which relationships in your life have involved conflict?
Every meaningful relationship of mine that has gone beyond the superficial/surface level has contained some measure of conflict, whether miniscule or titanic, even if it went entirely unspoken or unexpressed.
What have been your most powerful romantic experiences?
This is too sensitive to answer in full because it follows a 20-year pattern of deepest love followed by soul-searing pain. Each experience involved sharing a transcendent connection of mind/body/spirit/essence that heralded an eventual crushing end -- the unexplained and abrupt abandonment, the horrific revelation, the worst-case-scenario coming to life, the unexpected shock of terrible discovery. If I chose to write about it, I would be the Edgar Allan Poe of romance. I consciously choose not to write about it. And seldom talk about it.
What's the best way for someone to attract and impress you?
That's more comfortable to answer. Be good at whatever it is you do as your passion. Live to experience rather than to accumulate. Value creation over consumption. Have an eternally young soul that reflects itself in your body and lifestyle. Chase your curiosities further than your own back yard. Like me for who I really am.
Does it bother you when your S.O. checks out other people?
I don't have an SO. When in a relationship, though, this tends not to bother me. I check out both men and women all the time, and I see no harm in appreciating the physical beauty of a person you happen to see in passing. The only time it hurts is when I don't feel equally appreciated, or when the person being checked out is gushed over ad nauseam or repeatedly brought up.
After one date, if someone isn’t into you, how should they cut it off?
I don't think anyone is obligated to a "break things off" ritual after only one date.
Is it OK to break up with someone via e-mail?
If this happens to be the most effective mode of communication for you, I don't see e-mail break-up as unethical. It's been done to me, and I have to say it was preferable to the uncomfortable and stiff struggle for words during "we need to talk" talks. I also prefer it to being told in bed.
If someone cheated on you, what would you do?
You mean what did I do? I was stupid -- I acted on damaged self-esteem and accepted it silently, swept it under the rug, tried to convince myself it would never happen again. The only thing I know will never happen again is my self-defeating response to it.
There were about 10 more of these questions. But Hell's Bells, enough of that.
MEME #2 (appropriate and slightly altered from
lillibet's LJ)I want you to ask me something you would like to know about me. Something that should be obvious, but you have no idea about. Then post this in your own journal/blog (if applicable) and find out what people don't know about you.