A 2nd Chance
Dec. 19th, 2004 11:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
plumtreeblossomThis harkens back to last week's drama of "the really good date who never called back."
You men were spared my girls-only filtered rant on my loathing of men who can't take 30 seconds to reject someone in proper fashion, quite a raging flare-up that you didn't need to witness (since it doesn't apply to any of the men on my friendlist). Anyway...
Yesterday I decided I had nothing to lose by e-mailing this man to let him know how impolite I found it that he chose silence over a simple "Thanks, but it's not a match" following our date, which I had concluded he hadn't enjoyed as much as I had. The e-mail was very civil, but made no mistake about my displeasure at never hearing from him again, even after I e-mailed and thanked him for the date (you remember that).
What came back promptly was a profuse apology, with interest in getting together again. He'd had many gigs and had lost track of the days (something I wouldn't have done, but nevertheless). He was very humble in his apology. It all appears to have been another illustration of the vast difference between "man time" and "woman time." 24 hours to a woman is 2 weeks to a man, or so the lore I've often read goes.
So, though I'm less enthusiastic about an actual dating situation with him, I really did enjoy his company and would like to persue friendship and see where it goes. On our date I had invited him to my birthday party at Johnny D's tonight, and to my surprise he remembered and asked if the invitation was still open. I told him yes, it still is. I see no concrete reason not to offer him a 2nd chance.
So, we may see him tonight, or not, though I certainly won't get up in arms if he doesn't come, and in fact I would be just as happy meeting him for coffee and one-on-one conversation again. But letting him meet my fine famiglia of Firsties might be just as interesting. Either way, I'll be having fun.
See you tonight, famiglia.
You men were spared my girls-only filtered rant on my loathing of men who can't take 30 seconds to reject someone in proper fashion, quite a raging flare-up that you didn't need to witness (since it doesn't apply to any of the men on my friendlist). Anyway...
Yesterday I decided I had nothing to lose by e-mailing this man to let him know how impolite I found it that he chose silence over a simple "Thanks, but it's not a match" following our date, which I had concluded he hadn't enjoyed as much as I had. The e-mail was very civil, but made no mistake about my displeasure at never hearing from him again, even after I e-mailed and thanked him for the date (you remember that).
What came back promptly was a profuse apology, with interest in getting together again. He'd had many gigs and had lost track of the days (something I wouldn't have done, but nevertheless). He was very humble in his apology. It all appears to have been another illustration of the vast difference between "man time" and "woman time." 24 hours to a woman is 2 weeks to a man, or so the lore I've often read goes.
So, though I'm less enthusiastic about an actual dating situation with him, I really did enjoy his company and would like to persue friendship and see where it goes. On our date I had invited him to my birthday party at Johnny D's tonight, and to my surprise he remembered and asked if the invitation was still open. I told him yes, it still is. I see no concrete reason not to offer him a 2nd chance.
So, we may see him tonight, or not, though I certainly won't get up in arms if he doesn't come, and in fact I would be just as happy meeting him for coffee and one-on-one conversation again. But letting him meet my fine famiglia of Firsties might be just as interesting. Either way, I'll be having fun.
See you tonight, famiglia.